Sometimes, the shame and self-blame surrounding an event are so deeply ingrained in our system that we need to reprogram ourselves. In such cases, affirmations can be very helpful. For example, a woman like Louise Hay is very good at this.
In her books and videos on YouTube, you can learn a lot about affirmations and how they work. You can learn how to create them for yourself and how they can change your life.
Here are a few beautiful examples that I use myself:
I forgive myself so I can forgive others.
If you can’t forgive yourself, it’s often difficult to forgive others. Learn to forgive yourself so you can also have compassion for the mistakes of others.
I let go of my past so I can step into my future.
What you have done is in the past, not in the present. There is nothing more you can do about it. Accept your mistake(s) and embrace the idea that you will do things differently in the future.
I acknowledge my mistakes and forgive myself completely.
Acknowledge your mistake(s) and forgive yourself for them. We forgive others all the time but are often so hard on ourselves. Give yourself the same compassion; you are worth it.
I have punished myself enough; it’s time to move on.
Continuing to punish yourself for the same event is toxic to your emotions. Everyone makes mistakes; you are allowed to move on with your life.
I am love.
No matter how big your mistake was, you are still loved. People who know and love you will accept you as you are, including your mistakes.
I am forgiven.
When you can forgive yourself, you are free. If you ask someone else to forgive you and they do not, move on with your life knowing that you have done your part.